Tuesday, September 27, 2011
We Are All Horrible..... Victims.
I'm a victim. I've been treated like shit, beat down, broken and basically thrown away like trash on several occasions. Feel bad for me and love me with your sympathy because as a victim I am never wrong or accountable for anything that has happened to me.
We live in a society now where NO ONE takes responsibility for their actions. A study of this phenomena was done back in 1993 (Horowitz). It was called the "Culture of Victimization" and it's only gotten worse since the 90's. It's like we're in a constant battle with each other to see who can out "victim" someone else. I mean, when you piss someone else off, the first initial reaction is to place blame for it on anything but yourself. Instead of just saying "Yup I did that... and I'm sorry." We come up with every excuse in the book. "So and so made me do it". Or "You made me feel like crap so I'm reciprocating". Or my PERSONAL favorite... "It's all in your head." (Fuck you btw).
We are brought up to believe that we are supposed to be happy and as Americans we have a "constitutional right" to be so. We're also taught how to lie and manipulate a situation so things will go our way. (Some of this are better at this than others). I think we're losing focus of some very important things in our lives, people. It's okay to be happy. More than okay. Expected in fact. But it's not okay to be sad? It's not okay to have a bad day anymore? It's not okay to get angry??? When did that happen? When we get angry we get blamed for being irrational, over emotional, or another personal favorite of mine "bi-polar". A very close friend of mine once said to me "I'm not bi-polar, I'm just human." And you know what fuckers??? Most of us are just that.... HUMAN. We're ALLOWED to feel the way we feel, when we feel it REGARDLESS of whatever the fuck you think. Wanna know why??? Because we can't control it anymore than you can... dick.
And my FAVORITE part of it all is when you're caught cheating or lying about something ridiculous, and because of our "Culture of Victimization", you blame it on the other person. You weren't good enough to keep me faithful. You didn't make me feel special enough. You didn't do this and that so I stuck my dick in someone else or got my vagina wet for someone else. COME ON PEOPLE. If you're not happy how about you man up a bit and tell the fucking person you hate them before you go do something like that??? I mean really, you'd have to hate them to cheat on someone you tell you love. I don't give a shit HOW unspecial you feel or what the fuck ever, no one deserves to be lied to and treated like shit. And seriously... who ever gets over being cheated on.... really... it's like a capital offense.
But everything always goes back to my original thought every time... we are all horrible. Every single one of us. Somebody said "You can't change who you are but you can change what you do with it." (Don't ask me who spit out THOSE words of wisdom because I don't remember). But it's true. We fight our horrible side every day and some of us squat in it and blame everyone else for shit they are more than fully in control of. But I guess the hard part is admitting it. It's up to us how we act towards other people. It's EASY to blame someone else for things you've done. It's EASY to blame the other person who treated you like crap when in all fairness, you ALLOW them to treat you that way. It's easy to play the victim card because it's what everyone else on this fucking planet does.
Not only do we not hold OURSELVES accountable for what we do, but we're also not holding others accountable for what they do to us. It's like if we don't take care of the problem or at least let them know they hurt us, we are feeding more into our own victimhood. We can't bitch about shit if we don't fix the problem. And why do we not stick up for ourselves? Why do we not tell the mother fucker that burned us hey... you're a complete waste of air and you hurt me and I hope you fall off something high? It makes you feel better, I promise you. Sticking up for ourselves not only proves that we have brass balls but it boosts our confidence levels. It's like Methamphetamine... without the drug lab and jitters.
As people, we eat this shit up and HOPE something bad happens to us so we have something to talk about at the dinner table. And the sad thing is, we also allow ourselves to be treated like shit because it's almost more entertaining than having something good and easy. We're SURROUNDED by drama everyday... Facebook, magazines and now even the fucking newspapers are getting in on it. (I mean who really wants to read about Weiner's weiner?????) We are all becoming stupider by the day because of our obsession with drama. It's what makes our lives intense, and it's pretty damn sad that we want the bad over the good, because "our lives will suck without it." It's disgusting. (And I'm guilty for doing everything above at LEAST once. And sometimes twice on purpose.)
We should all own one of those t shirts. Bah.
(I got a lot of information off a site (this one in fact http://www.zurinstitute.com/victimhood.html) as I am doing a research project on this for college 'cause the topic pisses me the fuck off... so I'm citing it.... like a good student should.)
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